Why women date other marrieds?
Chat about a loaded issue that no one wants to speak about, this is it. Amusing thing, married dating have been going on ever since millennium. Extramarital relationships can be burdened with evils, cause sorrow, and other problems. Plus you have to wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and frankness matter, money, age difference, religious background, remorse, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I will define an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other persons, married woman date.
Why do people have affairs? There are as many answers as there are seek affair. I am sure mainly though it is only the human state, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Physically we as humans are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasurable and fun, and sex makes us get away the real world for a brief period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Some people can turn the desire on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another person, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos culture has erected against extramarital affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will beat their doubts and make them risk the fury of not only their relatives, but the public too. So why, what is the mechanism?
Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is extremely pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not hurt your family or anyone else? You would need to reduce the hazard you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the major cluster, enormous actually. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, except they are comfy in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to think about. Your money are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay as a family besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that stop them implementing the sex performance, at least not with their othere half. An marital affair occasionally solves the problem while keeping the marriage intact.
Ignoring, sadly this is a frequent cause I fear. One or the other, frequently the husband is sexually neglecting his female for a multitude of reasons. As a male I truly am grateful to you guys neglecting your wives and making them available to us men of romance, making them “milfs” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, maybe caring is vanished, could be it is the closeness, could be neglect. Could be we have simply developed distantly, our relulas concerns diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is conflicting of what you want. Could be I simply do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they search for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for financial gain, for payback and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.